What Makes a Good Dating Site?

Pretty much everyone has heard the statistic that nearly 20% of all married couples within the last 3 years met on an online dating site.  Interestingly, couples that meet online also tend to get married much quicker than their counterparts that meet in the “real world”: 18.5 months versus 42 months.  This telling statistic makes a lot of sense because on the “right” dating site, you have the opportunity to meet like-minded individuals that are truly “looking for love” – not just a one night stand.

While we obviously consider Loveawake to be New York’s best dating site for professionals, Loveawake is still in the process of expanding to major cities across the country.  As a result, we often get people asking us what makes a good dating site.  We tend to respond by explaining that there is no single online dating site that is perfect for everyone.  With that said, you have to find a dating site that fulfills the criteria that is most important to you.  For example, we recommend that you ask yourself the following questions before clicking an online dating site’s “join” button:

·         What type of people are you looking to meet, and what type of relationship are you pursuing?  As a wise friend once said, “If you’re going to play in the sewer, then you can’t complain about the rats.”  Some sites like Loveawake strive to foster relationships in an exclusive online dating community, while others… Not so much. You have to be honest with yourself and decide what you’re really looking for.

·         How does the site want you to meet someone?  In other words, does the site allow you to search and browse its members, or is functionality limited to receiving a finite number of matches by email each week and/or month? For whatever reason (perhaps they wanted to save money on development costs or they arrogantly think that they know what’s best for you), some half-baked sites have decided that it’s a bad idea for users to be able to search for potential matches themselves.  Instead, these sites insist on emailing their users a couple of potential matches each week.  You deserve the best of both worlds.  It can be helpful to have a dating site identify potential matches for you, but you should always have the option to conduct searches, yourself.

·         What is the customer service like?  When you consider joining a site, you may have some questions…  If it’s difficult to get in touch with a real person — whether it be by phone, email, or some sort of live chat feature — BEFORE you’ve opened your wallet, good luck getting a hold of someone once you actually become a member.  If it’s difficult to get responsive and helpful service before you have a problem, it’s probably a good indicator of the type of “help” that you’ll get in the future… (e.g., billing issues, difficulty deactivating, problems with sites features, etc.)

·         What is the site’s refund policy?  It’s an awful idea to join an online dating site with the expectation that you aren’t going to be satisfied with the service… Mindset is important. However, the reality is that sometimes things just don’t work out—and neither the website nor the user is to blame.  So you’d think that most sites would value their reputation enough to have generous and responsible refund policies, wouldn’t you?  Well, you’d be wrong.  In fact, it can be quite difficult to find another dating site that shares Loveawake’s philosophy on refunds.  Nevertheless, an online dating site’s refund policy is important for reasons aside for enabling you to get your money back.  It’s likely your best insight into the dating site’s business practices…  For instance, the refund policy can help answer questions like:  Does the site actually value you as an individual, or does it merely view you as a credit card number?  Is the site truly concerned about its users’ experience, or is the site primarily concerned with swiping your credit card before you can get away?  While it may sound cheesy and cliché, Loveawake is truly committed to helping our users find love and we want our users to have the best possible experience.  Our refund policy reflects that sentiment.  You should find a dating site that does too.

Stay tuned for Part II in our series about what makes a good online dating site… In the mean time, please sound off on what YOU think the most important characteristics and features of top dating sites are!

5 Steps to Prep Yourself Before Prepping Your Profile

Are you a good catch?

I believe being online is the best way to meet someone. But doing it right means more than just posting an attractive picture and decent profile. You have to make sure there is truth in your advertising.

I have a handsome male client who has been actively trying to meet someone “normal” online. He has some truly entertaining stories. However, the best laugh we shared was when he finally asked, “Is it me? Or are all these girls really crazy?”

The reality is like attracts like. He’s still licking his wounds from a devastating breakup. So the only girls that are attractive to him are the ones who are in some way unavailable. I assume since you’re on this site you present yourself in an eye-catching package. But what do you offer on the inside?

When you can check off these 5 suggestions you will truly be a good catch:

1. Unpack your baggage – All your past relationships that didn’t work out have one thing in common – you. Be honest with yourself. Candidly evaluate your previous participation and behavior. Taking responsibility for your mistakes will prevent you from repeating bad behavior in your next relationship. You have nothing to learn if you blame.
2. Make sure you’re ready – Are you capable of staying present and enjoying what’s happening in front of you without comparing it to someone or something else? If your thoughts frequently retreat to memories of a former love then you’re not ready to date yet.
3. Know what you want – Are you ready to make a commitment and share your life with a partner? That means being ready to compromise and sometimes making sacrifices. If that sounds scary to you then be honest. Make it clear you are just looking to have fun and spend some quality time with someone interesting.
4. Have something to offer – Are you interesting? When asked what you like to do can you talk about your activities positively? Or are you always waiting for a partner to do things with? Don’t define yourself by who you date. Remember, like attracts like. If you have a full, exciting life you’ll attract a better companion.
5. Think positively – What is your internal dialogue telling you? Are you 100% supportive and compassionate? Or are you tough, demanding and critical of you? You are what you think you are. And energy is contagious. So whatever you’re thinking or feeling about yourself on the inside is what you’re portraying on the outside. Be nice to yourself. Others will be nice to you too.

As with most things I realize some of the above recommendations are easier said than done. If anything in particular seems difficult or you take real aversion to something that’s an indicator you need to do some work around it. But you are not alone. I’m here to help.

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Splitting the Bill – The 60/40 Method

I always get the question of who should pay for dinner on dates.  From what I’ve seen and heard, the 60/40 split is what usually works best.  This means that the guy covers the “bigger” purchases (dinners, show tickets) and the girl pays for the “smaller” purchases (cab rides, tip).

The 60/40 split addresses many of the problems found in the traditional 100/0 split or the modern 50/50 by offering the right balance of tradition and gender equality:

Problems with 100/0

Reduces value of the woman; supports outdated notion of subordination

May make woman feel like she “owes” man something in return

Often unsustainable… (unless guy is filthy rich)

Problems with 50/50

Emasculating

May lead to calculation overload and resentment… “well… you paid for x and y, but I paid for z, so to make it even, i think you should pay for this one”

Obviously, the 60/40 would not apply to dates where two people are highly polarized either in income, status (celeb dating a pedestrian), or age.  Oh yeah, and the guy should pay for the first date (unless the date was a complete disaster).

Now, what happens when you date a super hot girl and she never offers to pay.  It’s very common.  Hot girls are used to not paying for anything and frankly, they think that gracing you with their presence in public is payment enough.  So, you gotta ask yourself if this is the type of girl you want to be dating and if so, pick up that extra side job and pay for your trophy!

Lastly, there’s nothing less sexy than hearing the words “I’m so broke”.  I know it’s a recession, but we don’t want to hear about your financial woes.  If you can’t pay for even your half of the date, don’t ask us out.  Simple.

What a Suriname Man Has to Consider for His First Date

Suriname First Date Traditions

Preparing for a first date might be exceptionally upsetting, if you’re the man or the lady. Lady frequently consider men certain and constantly beyond any doubt of what they’re doing. In all actuality, most men will claim they’re just as apprehensive before a first date as Suriname women. In the event that you’re a man getting prepared for your first date with that somebody unique, here are a few tips to simplicity your strain and set the fun back into dating.

Furnish her with a customary date. Regardless of how current and autonomous ladies may think they are, regarding the matter of dating, in any event the first date, they’re accepted. In most ladies’ personalities, a customary date includes the man reserving the spot to wherever they’re having a go at, lifting the lady up and paying the bill. Don’t anticipate that her will reach you on the first date or to help pay for the supper. Completing the first date legitimately will get things off on the right foot.

Suriname First Date Donts

Don’t anticipate that her will acknowledge a date throughout today or tomorrow. Permit enough time to make arrangements and reservations. By approaching her for a date later on, you’re telling her that you accept she heads a dynamic life and doesn’t invest her time sitting at home holding up for you to call. Demonstrate to Suriname woman that you thought enough about this first date to have, everything arranged. Don’t appear at her entryway with no thought of what you’re going to do. Bear in mind that reckoning has a tendency to make things better!

Don’t be modest on your first date. You don’t need to take her to the most costly restaurant around the local area, yet be specific with where you decide to take her. Demonstrate to her that you’ve required significant investment to think about the most ideal approaches to reveal to her that she is so uncommon to you. Regardless of the fact that you’re on a plan, there are numerous approaches to joy her on the first date. Take in what she prefers and do everything to suit her. Don’t be hesitant to call her early to affirm your arrangements. She’ll take this as a sign that you are expecting the first date to the extent that she is.

Conclusion

Be on time for your date. This is great decorum for all dates yet especially so with the first date. Make an effort not to be excessively early either as this may simply worry her assuming that she happens to be running late. Assuming that for some unavoidable reason you discover you will be late, call her and provide for her an overhaul on when she can anticipate that you will arrive. We all affection to have somebody demonstrate to us and let us know we’re acknowledged and attractive. Assuming that Suriname lady looks extraordinary, don’t falter to tell her. At the end of the date, in the event that you feel things finished not work out and have no change, don’t lead her on with a guarantee to call her. Let her know you had an extraordinary time and thank her with a kiss on the face. In the event that, then again, you both had an extraordinary time, let her know and ask her out

Dating Advice for Women - Tips to make a man want to be with you

Did you try many times to get Mr. Right on Perth Backpage Sites?

Is it true that you are pondering about what it takes to make a Perth man need you? Have you attempted numerous things out there to make him intrigued by you yet neglected to land Mr. Right? Isn’t that so? Do you begrudge ladies who are not so especially ravishing however can appear to have any fellow they need? In the event that you addressed positive for these inquiries then you are only one of the numerous young ladies who urgently need to comprehend what truly gets a fellow’s extravagant. These four tips from Alex Smith, a Perth backpage site coach, are simple to the point that you will have him needing you in a matter of moments.

Look your best!

It’s no huge mystery that attractive young ladies have better risks of pulling in gentlemen. This doesn’t imply that you ought to sign up for plastic surgery or heap on two inches of cosmetics. Every one of us are conceived with no less than one wonderful characteristic maybe your shining eyes, your pouty lips, your faultless skin, your even stomach, and so on. The key is to play up this benefit.

Get him to pursue you!

Making yourself excessively accessible to a gentleman is one of the beyond any doubt fire approaches to not make him need you. Rather, keep him speculating. Let him know you’re not free for a date next Friday in light of the fact that you generally made plans or let an entire day pass before giving back his messages.

Flaunt it!

There is nothing more overpowering to men than a young lady who looks great and is not anxious about looking great. Wherever you go, attempt to hold yourself with trust. Hold your head up high, toss your shoulders back, and grin. You will in a flash look, and feel, a considerable measure better.

Be fun, fun, fun!

One of the most undiscovered insider facts when it comes making a gentleman need you is, well, being part of the gang. At any rate, once in a while. Gentlemen get turned off by complete young ladies. Young ladies who do nothing else than hurl their hair or powder their nose. Unleash your dashing side and reveal to him you can stay aware of him, if its surfing, skateboarding or essentially running in the downpour.