среда, 16 июня 2021 г.

How To Manipulate The Game


According to Roosh and Game In BK (who both have game), even if you have game in the conversational sense, you will only sleep with 3-4% of the women that you approach. I don't even want to imagine the percentage for guys that don't have game in the conversational sense. I think that percentage is just insane. Roosh lays out two options that he has:

1. Go out more to increase the odds of finding girls that I like.

2. Lower my standards.

I have nothing to say about his options, however, there are two other options that he has that I've talked about on my blog:

3. Go where/when there is less competition.

Too many PUAs go to overcrowded nightclubs where there is simply too much competition, even for the attractive guy. I've talked about this extensively. I will not go anywhere that is too crowded simply because there are too many distractions for a woman. If you can't get decent comfort game going because of various distractions or there being too many good options for a woman, then that is not a place where you want to be.

4.  Be the guy to set the bar high.

If you don't think you can be one of the best options for a woman in that particular nightclub, then you need to go somewhere else and come back when you are. And I'm saying this from a realistic standpoint; not from some kind of I think therefore I am standpoint. I know I can be the funniest guy that a girl will ever meet. However, if I am not in a funny mood, then I know that I will have to rely on my looks. And if for whatever reason, if most of the guys around me are NFL players, guys rocking Gucci, or are just high rollers that I can't realistically best, then I know that I need to go somewhere else where I am one of the top guys.

It also looks like Roosh is going through a phase that I went through (you can read about it in my stories). He is in a position where he knows that his wingmen really are a self-inflicted obstacle, but he doesn't want to tell them to stay out of his sets. Wingmen are a bigger problem than what anyone is willing to admit. It can be tough, because it looks like you are choosing a woman over your friends. I think that eventually, he will have to address them. You can still go out with your friends and have fun without having to invite them into your sets.

And finally, I think that if you know that you're going to have to approach any number of women before getting a lay, then you need to cut through the bullshit as soon as possible. Women usually know whether they like you or not before you even open your mouth. Why waste time having a conversation with a girl that has no intention of giving you any real shot in the first place?

I'm not saying that a guy should show interest throughout his conversation, however, he should express it during his approach just to see if the girl has any real interest as well. That way, he doesn't waste time on a maybe chicks, and he can focus his time on women that are actually interested in him from the get-go. However,  most men will ignore this advice. Why? Because like I said in another post, PUAs get addicted to "almost" pulling a girl. For a lot of guys, that's better than getting flat out rejected at the very start, even if they waste time on these maybe girls that could be used on women that are actually interested.

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вторник, 8 июня 2021 г.

How To Feel Comfortable In Your Own Skin

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be great with women?

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be great with women at the expense of your own feelings?

Sometimes I get the feeling guys are always looking for a quick fix to an area of their life that deserves so much more attention than that.

I remember when I first starting meeting women. To get me out into the real world as fast as possible, David got me using canned material. This was awesome as it allowed me to talk to women immediately…

Soon I was having great interactions with women. The sort of interactions with women that I thought were never possible for me.

However, it was not long before I started feeling uncomfortable. I felt like this because I felt that it wasn’t really me. That I was using underhand tactics to meet women. Something that should be totally natural.

I didn’t Feel Comfortable In My Own Skin

Part of David’s training can sometimes involve using a pre-tested ‘line’ as it allows you to get out in the real world as quickly as possible. This is great because it bolsters your confidence and makes you realize you have the ability to meet and attract hot women.

When you get past this initial stage you may start to feel like you want to adapt to a more natural approach. Feeling comfortable in your own skin is something that we really focus on here at Social Masters.

Feeling comfortable means doing things that are congruent with your natural behavior. For example, if you don’t like motorbikes but you end up telling motorbike stories to impress women because some website told you to then you are not gonna feel comfortable about it.

Ask yourself…

Do you do things that make you feel awful just to meet and attract women?

Now I am not on about that awful feeling you get when you are about to approach. We all get that :-).

Instead I am on about the feeling you get when you have used underhand methods to attract a girl. Maybe you told her a story about yourself that wasn’t true. Or you told her about all your ‘hobbies’. Hobbies you don’t actually do, but thought it would impress her.



четверг, 3 июня 2021 г.

Sticking To Your Stereotypes

I covered this topic in Deeper Than Game, but Tazzy Bee also said something similar:

I've realized recently that when a woman approaches you , it is because she is extremely attracted to whatever stereotype you project. This means for black men , whenever a white woman approaches , its best to stick with direct / mode one type of game.

These are very true words. It's always good to be different, but it's best not to stray too far away from the stereotypes that women believe about men like you. Sure, you may get a girl that may like your uniqueness, but these women are rare. The types of women that will choose you or like you instantly, will most likely like you because of some stereotype or preconceived belief that they have about men that are similar to you (what you appear to be).

For example, if you are a black guy that hangs around white people and primarily white nightclubs like I do, then yes, you want to fit in with your white friends, but at the same time, you still want to be a black guy. It's best to fit in just enough so that you aren't an outcast, but at the same time, you want to maintain your blackness because if a girl chooses you, she most likely will choose you because of the stereotypes associated with black guys.

And let's not limit this to black guys. White guys should do the same. You need to go heavily in the direction of a rocker, fratboy, hipster, etc.,. Why? Because women who like white guys, tend to like white guys that fit one of those descriptions. It's not enough to just be a white guy; you gotta be a stereotypical white guy in one of the categories of white guys that women are attracted to.

I believe that this is the reason that when it comes to women, black guys either flourish, or they continually fail. The black guys who fail may be able to attract women with their looks, but if they've never hung around black jocks or thugs, then they have no idea of what women who choose black guys like about them. This is usually the case with black guys from the suburbs who never became jocks or spent any considerable amount of time around inner city black guys.

For example, I know of a couple of black guys that go the heavily rocker route with the crazy earrings, chains, etc. These guys are basically white guys. However, these guys don't get any women. Why not? Even when a woman is into the rocker scene who likes black guys, she probably likes black guys because of some of the stereotypes about their personalities. So what happens when these girls in the rocker scene talk to these black guys and find out that these guys are totally white? They get turned off and move on.

The same goes for older guys in general. The women that choose older men aren't looking for older men that are trying to impress them with tricks and routines. They want older men because they are stereotypically experienced, calm, confident, etc. So what happens when a chick chooses an older guy and then sees that he is performing all kinds of tricks and routines to impress her? She gets turned off and moves on.

I'm not saying that you have to play up every stereotype, afterall, my voice, style of clothing, and vocabulary is the same of a typical frat asshole white guy, but at the same time, I know how to play up the right black stereotypes. I know how to be cool, calm, dominating, etc., so I still get the girls that are into black guys without scaring them off because of not being "black enough".

No matter if you're old, black, white, hispanic, if there's something about your race, age, social class, etc., that a group of women tend to go for, then you need to play up some of the stereotypes associated with it, as the women who choose those guys, choose them for stereotypical reasons. You can still be unique and be yourself, but make sure that you don't stray too far away from what women like about guys that you are stereotyped to be like. A lot of PUAs have trouble because they don't just pick a stereotypical direction and go with it.


If you're dating outside of your race, you obviously want to fit in culturally with whatever women you are going after, but at the same time, if there's something that is positively associated with your race, then you want to maintain it. Again, I'm a black guy that likes keggers, some rock music, and art, which makes me appealing to white girls, but at the same time, I have the positive personality traits that are associated with black guys, such as being decisive, cool, etc.


пятница, 21 мая 2021 г.

Humor Is Greater Than Physical Attraction

And this is exactly why if you're gaming in nightclubs, you just want to focus on cracking jokes and having fun all night long: 

Sexual attraction isn't simply a matter of physical bodies drawn magnetically together in search of compatibility.

For some women, personality - in particular, a good sense of humour - is equally, if not more, important in generating a sexual spark.

One indication of the importance of a good sense of humour in a man is that it is one of the few personality traits that has its own abbreviation in online dating sites: GSOH.

Another is that research shows married women who think their husbands are witty are more satisfied with their marriages than women who do not.

Women rate it as a desirable trait in short-term sexual and long-term romantic relationships.
Why a sense of humour is so important in sexual attraction has been the subject of scientific debate.
One critical distinction is between humour production (making others laugh) and humour appreciation (laughing at others' jokes).

There's a sex difference - men define a woman with a good sense of humour as someone who laughs at their jokes. Men especially like women who are receptive to their humour.
Women, in contrast, are attracted to men who produce humour, and that's true for all types of relationships, from one-night stands to lifelong matings.

The most likely explanation for why women and men alike are attracted to those with a sense of humour is because laughing elicits a positive mood - it's a sign of confidence and intelligence, too

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Playing The Game

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Something Women Can Relate To

How Nightclubs Fooled Women

When Women Give You Eye Contact

Flexing Your Financial Muscle

Why Women Are Attracted To Men

The Jackass Never Dies 

Now you guys know what you should be focusing on, personality-wise. Humor has the highest payout. If you haven't already, perhaps you should be checking out Assanova's Chick Crack and Assanova's Book Of Awesome Game?

пятница, 7 мая 2021 г.

Trouble Shooting: The Shit Test

 A reader asks …

I am getting kind of confused with how to deal with this “sh*t testing.” It seems like it would be hard to find that balance between being an understanding and “not taking the sh*t from the girl.”

At the understanding side, someone could take that too far and end up being a door mat. But, on “not taking the sh*t from the girl” side, someone could take that too far and come across as insensitive of what the girl is going through or why she is reacting in that way. Thanks again,

Matt, I would say that you really need to assess the situation. I can’t give you a manual on all the situations a woman will engage in that will indicate that she is sh*t testing you. The action could be the same – yet the intention she has for it could be different. This is where you are really going to have to use your judgment.

It’s not a matter of, “Why is she really sh*t testing me” and more of a matter of, “How do I choose to respond to this?” If you always choose to respond with presence – you will win 100% of the time.

You need to pay attention to her reactions. If she says something and you make a joke about it to lighten the mood and she seems more resistant to you after that – then clearly it’s because she is experiencing an insecurity and needs to not only feel your presence but your compassion.

Now keep in mind that a woman is more likely to sh*t test to gauge your strength as a man during the initial stages of meeting her. Say you meet her at a coffee or club she will use sh*t testing as a barrier to fend of suitors which are not suitable to her at all. Therefore, you will more than likely encounter a small bitch shield. Maybe she will: display cold body language, won’t look you in the eye, or make a sarcastic remark. And, there are two places she could be. She really might not be interested in talking with you right then and there (sometimes women just are not in the mood to be picked up or to flirt with a guy no matter how appealing he may be) OR she may just be testing to find out whether you are worth her time. So she will throw a few little tests your way to see how you respond to them. When she sees that you don’t crumble, that you can hold your own, remain calm, cool , collected, and perhaps even make her laugh – she will be more than willing to stop what she is doing and divert her attention to you.

In the initial stages of attraction a woman will be predominately be testing to answer the question “Are you a man that is worth opening up to?”

After you have been dating a woman for a while tends to evolve and looks a little different from when you are initially trying to attract her.

Once you have developed a level of attraction and trust with a woman she will want to test and will be thinking, “Remind me that you are a man that is worth continually opening up to”.

So, you will find that she will express more insecurity based words or actions. Therefore, she may appear moody for no particular reason, she may nit pick on you, she may try to control you, and she may even withdraw to you. All of this is a subconscious process which is designed to gauge how you will react.

Now this is the part that most men miss. They think that when a woman withdraws, acts moody – that they need to respond with niceties or worse they need to walk around her on eggshells. The worse thing you can do to kill your attraction with a woman is to pretend something is ok when it is not. So here is what you need to do.

1) Acknowledge the sh*t test – communicate to her in whatever way you deem appropriate that you know exactly what she is doing.

Her: “You hair looks terrible today”
You: “I’m glad you noticed … I put a lot of effort into it” *sly smile* (in this process her comment should be like water off a duck back – it doesn’t phase you one bit”

2) Validate – An extension to acknowledging this process is about respecting her emotions – showing her that they are in fact important to you.

You: “So we both know this is not about my hair – why the pouty face?

3) Obliterate - Cut through her insecurities by revealing your strength to her – allow your strength and masculinity to be a rock wall she can lean on.

You: *In reference to the pouty face comment* You don’t want to pull that too long, premature wrinkles on the forehead won’t be in fashion for a very long time”

Trouble Shooting
Listen intently, allow her to express – be prepared to change her state using humor. Humor will also allow a woman to feel safe enough to open up to you. But first you must acknowledge and validate her current emotions. You don’t need to get “caught up and lost in her emotions” – you just need to recognize that they are there and allow her to express and say whatever it is that she needs to express and say.

Now a woman will only want to change her state and allow herself to be happy again if she has had sufficient time to “vent” (this means talk, express, get upset over” the very thing that is causing this insecurity. Once she had expressed this – she will have the mental and emotional capacity to move on, be happy and much more open and receptive to you. And, not a moment before.

Now, I’m writing this break down of sh*t testing for you guys, especially since I know that you are a little more advanced that the Average Joe out there. If I were to do a video of this on you-tube I would get a whole bunch of comments like, “Why do I need to put up with her sh*t”, “I need a woman who is less maintenance than this” and so on. And, possibly this thought may or may not have crossed your mind, too.

Note: These are advanced techniques and are based on the assumption that you guys are interested in not only understanding a woman’s need but anticipating them.

This is all based on the assumption that YOU Choose to be the smarter, more proactive part of the relationship and that you will take the leadership position to lead her into a relationship that will fulfill you both.

With that said I know that sh*t testing can be really confusing still to many of you and I would love to know what your thoughts are so I can help clarify any more concerns.

I’ve had my say, now it’s your turn!

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вторник, 4 мая 2021 г.

You Met Your Man ~ Why Freak ??

Maria met her man !!  She’s so excited !!  
She knows how to weed out the “bad guys” …
She knows how to attract what she wants …
Everything she’s learning is paying off !
But now that she’s met her new man, she’s starting to freak out !! 
Jake didn’t come in the package Maria expected.  He’s a little younger … and different physically from what she imagined.
But he has everything and more of what she wants !!
Maria and Jake connect on so many levels and have an absolute blast together. 
He’s thoughtful, kind, funny and a great kisser. 
He understands and respects that she doesn’t want to have sex without a commitment … AND he doesn’t want children … which is a major deal breaker for Maria.
Maria has prayed many times for someone like Jake to show up and take her away from the dating madness.
It’s so good !  So right …
Yet, Maria feels anxious and is starting to freak out.
So what’s the problem ??  Why is Maria freaking out ??
Meeting a man like Jake was exactly what Maria wanted.  She just wasn’t expecting the emotions that come along with …  the vulnerability … the fear … the crazy !!
Is this normal? 
Yes it is.   For several reasons …
1.    Fantasy Meets Reality
It’s one thing to dream of your man.  It’s another to finally meet him.
In your dream … he’s pictured a certain way … he behaves a certain way … and he’s available at your convenience.
The reality is … he’s probably not going to be anything like you pictured.  He’s gonna be who he is … and he’s gonna want to see you at his convenience. 
When you meet your man … “freaking out” is not going to be about the man.  It’s going to be about you.  Here he is … the real deal.  Who are you in relationship to him?  Are you available to receive him?  Seeing yourself reflected in the presence of a real man can be freaky indeed!
2.    Too Good To Be True
When your man really, really wants you, it’s great … and it can feel overwhelming. 
You imagine wonderful feelings of love and bliss.  You meet him and he surpasses your imagination.  Then you realize his attention can feel quite frightening.  You are exposed.  It’s a very vulnerable place. 
You start questioning EVERYTHING … like, is he the right man?  Or do you even want a man ??  Crazy, huh? 
Meeting your man takes you to the deepest part of yourself and it can feel terrifying … because you have to look at who you are, what you value and your own self-worth.
Are you worthy to receive your man … if he’s “too good to be true?”
3.    The Risk Factor
Meeting your man doesn’t come without a risk factor.  Love in the best circumstances is still a roll of the dice.
You’re human.  Amid the bliss of meeting your man lurk old fears and beliefs.
What if it doesn’t work out?
What if you lose yourself?
What if he uses you, then leaves?   
There’s a lot going on.
It’s normal to freak out. When you meet your man, your life changes.  Big time ! 
It will never be the same. 
The anticipation … uncertainty … excitement … adrenaline … joy … fear … freak out … are all part of being in a new relationship with your man. 
It’s a normal feeling. So, take a deep breath and relax.
The best thing you can do is stay anchored in your own self love and enjoy the ride !
To help you get started in meeting your man … or understanding what to expect when you do, order “The Role of a Lifetime: How To Star In Your Own Love Story” home study course.

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