Moslitski: Ask a Pick-up Artist: How to Pickup Girls In Class

Hey guys – I’m pleased to announce the introduction of a new section: Ask a Pick-up Artist. Each week we’ll be reaching into our mailbag and answering a question sent in by one of our readers. For details on how to submit a question, see the bottom of this post.

I’m in college right now and I’m studying pickup. I’ve been using it around at parties and pubs, but I don’t know how to do this stuff in class. When I think about it, I freeze. Can you give me some advice on pickup in a college class room?

I think picking up girls in class actually puts a lot of advantages on your side.

First, you have a context to work from – you’re in class together. You go to the same school. So as far as context is concerned, you have all the reason in the world to talk to them.

Plus, depending on the classes you’re taking, you probably have a good amount of women to choose from. This is less often the case for engineers, but I would imagine you at least have some women to choose from if you’re asking this question.

I think one of the things that can contribute to the “freeze up” effect is when you fixate on a particular girl in the class and want to cook up a scheme to pick her up.

Approaching pick-up with this mindset can work against you since it’s very easy to start attaching meaning to the success or failure of the interaction.

In fact, one of my big traps with pick-up was the sense that I wasn’t “prepared” to do it correctly. So instead of just trying stuff and improving as I went along, I would keep telling myself I needed more preparation and spent my time studying pick-up instead of trying it.

Some things to keep in mind about the classroom: It’s a social environment. People see other people and how they act, hold themselves, etc.

So being relaxed and having good body language in the class room would be helpful.

You do need to make sure your body language is relaxed and comfortable though. I knew this one guy who studied body language and he had read that it was good to “take up space”.

So this guy was sitting in a seminar room, completely sprawled out and taking up as much space as possible. Only problem was he looking incredibly uncomfortable doing it – it was as if he had an invisible gun to his head and was told he needed to take up as much space as possible “or else”….

But if you can adopt being comfortable in your own space without being over-the-top, it will help.

The next thing to consider is what it would be like to be social in class. If your status quo is to walk in, sit at a desk and isolate yourself from everyone, then it’s no wonder that you would freeze up when you want to talk to a girl in class: It’s completely against your habits and standard way of acting.

If that connects with how you are in class, I would encourage you to broaden your scope beyond being successful at pick-up in class to being social in class. Talk to girls. Talk to guys. Talk to everyone you’re sitting around and strike up conversations with everyone and anyone before and after class.

There are many side advantages to this: You’ll meet people. You may get invited to parties. You may make friends with someone who is just a great person to be around (girl or guy). And that friend might have hot girl friends, which is always a plus.

But the biggest benefits (from a pick-up perspective) is that you will get used to socializing in class as your standard way of being. Plus, others will observe you as a social guy, so when you approach them and talk to them they’ll recognize your actions as “social” and not as an unusual break in your habits.

Another thing to consider is that your conversations can be just little snippets of conversation. Maybe you only talk to any one person for 2 or 3 sentences of interchange, but you spoke to 5 or 6 people in class that day. Next time you have class together, it will be that much more familiar for you all to talk again.

I wrote a book last year with Legend about pick-up and the dynamics of being a college PUA (through parties) called House Party PUA, where I go deeper into establishing yourself as the social guy and how to translate it into pick-up success. The book is geared toward throwing your own parties or being successful at other people’s parties (even if you’re not in college). I think you would be able to apply a lot of what’s in there to your current situation.

Hope it helps,

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