Surprise! On Married-Cheating Websites, More Women Cheat than Men

Quick, picture a "cheater." You probably just conjured up an image of some cad stepping out on his girlfriend or wife (the key word here being "his").

Well, think again.

A new study flips that image around and shows that women are just as likely to cheat, if not more so. In fact, a study by British "married-dating site" Illicit Encounters finds that there are 3.5 cheating women for every man online. The study also found that women are on these affair-seeking sites longer than men, staying on for a little more than a year as opposed to just over six months for guys. (Caveat: Guys usually pay to join these sites, while women ride for free.)

But the Illicit Encounters survey isn't the only one to find that women are cheaters as well. (It takes two to tango, doesn't it?) According to Redbook, one-third of the members of American married-dating site Ashley Madison are women.

What are some of the reasons women cheat? It's usually because they feel neglected or ignored in their primary relationship. Redbook spoke to a woman, "L," who uses Ashley Madison, and she told them her reason for straying outside the marriage was the fact that her husband's hidden financial dealings broke her trust so much that she didn't want to sleep with him anymore.

However, in a different breath, she also tells the magazine, "Nobody was ever going to be better with my kids than my husband," adding that this was a way to get back at him without hurting her children.

Points for creativity, we guess.

Source : Theinfostride

The Rules Of Engagement

A story in The Telegraph caught my eye this week. Apparently guys eat healthily at home and pig out on junk food when they are out of the house, purely to keep marital discord down to a gentle simmer. That explains the massive queues at the McDonalds drive thru in the morning, though research is still ongoing to explain the queues at Arby's.

It actually seems kinda sweet. The wife looking out for her man and the guy temporarily putting aside his preference for salty grease to make her happy.

That has got to be one of the most sexist sentences ever written. It has been a century or so for most countries since women got the vote, yet the underlying thesis of the research article quoted by the Telegraph is that "A woman's place is in the kitchen."

Still. Permit me a single silent scream of rage.

Dudes, take some responsibility for what you shove into your face. Gals, quit taking responsibility for every last little thing that happens behind the closed front door. Sit down, grow up and try talking to each other.

Source: Loveawake blog

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Undateable? Intense competition online

Ellen Gammerman writes for the Wall Street Journal and seems to be their onsite expert on online dating.  She wrote a lengthy piece called “An online nightmare: Becoming ‘Undateable’" that is worth a look.  It’s so dense with stories that I won’t summarize it here. other to say it describes a good idea gone bad.

I know that when I was doing online dating, I wished there was some kind of reporting system so that others could be at least warned about caddish behavior.  And some sites have developed systems to do so.  But like any good idea, people are always around who are ready to misuse it (like the scammers who are now such a part of everyday Internet life).  And people have figured out ways to abuse and manipulate rating systems. 


I guess the only route is the middle one: Behave yourself and use good manners, do the best you can with your online profile, making sure it also accurately presents you as you are now, and keep you antennae up and in the “receiving” position.  Don’t be a cad yourself, and learn how to spot them.