There are so many terms for ‘bad people’ that influence you in such negative ways. Emotional leeches, psychic vampires, the hystericals and drama queens (a.k.a. social vamps). We all have them in our circumference. Many of us have to deal with them on a daily basis. What a lot of us don’t take into account, however, is how they can affect our moods, personalities and even our health if we give them too much sway. Our guilt plays a gruesome game between our conscience and our own needs- usually with guilt getting a leg up, over and under our skin.
It’s actually got a psychological term that’s been scientifically proven: emotional contagion. Think back through the years to all of those you’ve known that were needy, clingy, continuously vicious and enraged, the people that once you left them you felt absolutely drained. You were in a good mood, and it can take less than minutes for a ‘negative’ personality to wipe that joy slate clean. They might have even left you feeling downright surly. Neuroscience says that deeply unhappy people infect others, because we are subconscious mirrors to those around us. Spending a lot of time with certain people, we pick up their gestures, their phrases and eventually their behavior. We’re unconscious mimics- or unconscious hosts. Identify the types:
- Emotional Leeches: these are the people that are always in need, always come to you for advice, phone you up, and never solve their problems. They feed off of your sympathy and kindness, coming back for more. In extreme cases, they may even go the serial liar path just to have a constant influx of badness. They can be friends, co-workers or family. The only thing that matters: they’re sucking the glee out of you, walking away feeling ’so much better.’
- Psychic Vampires: a sub-let to leeches, they’re more specified and professional. They have, dunno, special needs? These are people who need to start arguments, or flirt outrageously, or those that kill everyone with kindness and then lap up the guilt. They only feel satisfied if they get the ‘required’ response. They walk away from the encounter with relief, while you’re left reacting.
- Drama Queens: they can’t exist without an audience. They can be awkward, embarrassing, bullying, over-running the conversation to be ‘me, me, me’ focused and are pretty obnoxious. Part of the reason they become part of our lives is that initially they can be fun. Entertaining, even, if we feel a little bored. Unfortunately, they never let up. They’re insensitive to anyone’s needs, and tend to throw tantrums if they’re even mildly not paid attention to.
- The Hystericals: an off-shoot of drama queens. Hystericals notch it up 2 decibels. Ranting, raving, screaming, crying at the drop of a hat, inappropriate laughter that rings hours after a meeting. It’s always the end of the world for these people.
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There is good news, though- if you attract them, it means you’re generally happy and stable. Getting rid of them is tough on guilt-trips but you have to stay strong. Limit contact, if you can’t sever it completely. They’ll keep trying to come back. Don’t waver. Just remember: happiness is the left side of the brain and it’s logical. Anger, resentment or depression are all right-siders, and they’re irrational. Cleansing yourself of external negativity means you’re in the right frame of mind, even if your head’s a southpaw.