10 Ways to Show ‘I Love You’

 

Get Creative with Your Favorite Phrase

People think that saying those three magical (and sometimes terrifying words) “I love you” is the hardest part of the game. Climbing to the top of that emotional mountain seems like such an accomplishment, that we sometimes forget how to live what we speak. Here are 10 ways to show your lover that you don’t just talk the talk, you walk the love walk, as well.

Coming Home to a Bouquet of Fresh Flowers

This may seem cliche, but there is nothing quite as lovely as the simple act of buying your lover flowers. It creates a fragrant and romantic ambience and is very thoughtful. Flowers cheer up any room, and can turn any frown upside down! Yes, men can receive flowers, too, and it actually works well when you turn the tables! They feel appreciated and pleasantly surprised; you can’t go wrong!

Little, Random Love Notes

As your love stumbles into the shower at 6 am, wouldn’t it be a sweet surprise to find a little note attached to the mirror in the bathroom, saying how much you love being with him or her? How about as they grab their briefcase, backpack, or purse and reach in to find a little note that says something amorous? A little note can go a long way, and when you have something tangible to look at throughout your day, it can definitely put a little spring in your step!

Making Their Favorite Meal From Scratch

    
Nothing shows how you can nurture your partner more than cooking for them. There is something seductive about feeding your partner delicious, homemade food that they crave. Whether you are a great chef or hardly boil water well, the important part is to try. The effort shows more than the perfect finished product, and if all else fails, you can have a good laugh together (which is always sexy) over burning the casserole and order take-out, instead!

Speaking of Food...Plan a Picnic

Bring some fabulous wine, really good crusty bread, some juicy fruits (like pomegranates or strawberries), and any other delicious items you want. Grab an old blanket and lay it out at the park or nearby grassy field and lay with one another, looking up at the sky. Feel the breeze on your skin, the sun kissing your face and enjoy the moments of being with your lover.

Little Treats Go a Long Way

Does your partner enjoy running? Sneak little treats into their running shoes, like new running socks or sunscreen. Do they love a certain type of candy? Plan a trip to the movies and sneak in their favorite snack that they don’t care at the concession stand. How about their favorite coffee drink? Pick them one up on your way home to show that they were on your mind. These ideas may seem minute and even silly, but making your lover smile can reinvigorate the relationship and keep it fresh.

Babysit for the Night

If you have children, giving your love the night off to do something that they want to do, whether it’s catch up with a friend, visit family, or just be alone to read or relax without interruptions can really go a long way. By allowing one another some free time, you are building on your trust for each other, you are strengthening mutual respect and understanding for one another’s needs, and you are giving that person a chance to reboot. By giving of yourself, you show your love that you are in this for the long run.

Use Technology to Your Advantage

Little random emails or text messages that say simple things like “thinking of u” or “xo miss u” can really brighten someone’s day, especially if they are having a challenging day at work or school or wherever they are at. It isn’t necessarily what you say that is important, it’s the fact that you took a few moments out of your day to let them know that they are on your mind.

House Chores

Does your partner hate to iron? What about vacuum? Whatever task at home your partner loathes, surprise them by doing it before they get the chance to. Coming home to your basket of clothes being folded and pressed, or finding a clean kitchen in the morning is a wonderful feeling. Housework can be overwhelming and never ending. Seeing your partner make an effort for you and your home let’s you know there is love and respect residing in your house.

Massage

The act of touching your lover in a soothing, relaxing way can really enhance not only your relationship, but the sexual and sensual energy between the two of you. If your lover has had a long day or just looks uncomfortable, tell them to sit down and rub their shoulders for a while. This doesn’t have to be a full-on hour long massage. Just sitting for ten minutes rubbing away some stress can really melt tension that they are feeling.

Affection

Sounds like a no-brainer, but it is always important to keep affection and flirtation in your marriage. Little kisses here and there, just hugging for no reason, subtle touching on the lower back or holding hands as you walk down the street can create a sense of unity and keep you bonded with your partner. Yes, some couples don’t like PDA, but you can always snuggle on the couch together or take a bath in the privacy of your own home. This isn’t about sex. This is about getting the love energy flowing between the two of you and that starts with a wink and a kiss!

There are a million different ways to show your lover that you care. I have only listed a few. Whatever way you decide to demonstrate your love, just remember, the greatest gifts come from the heart.

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Relationship advice: How to get a boyfriend/girlfriend? A little summary…

I know when people read the above title, they get interested and think that they hearing some advices, they are better equipped to get a boyfriend or girlfriend.

The truth is, anybody who asks that question doesn’t understand anything about relationships; you aren’t just going to be getting a partner by using pickup lines, dressing up in the best way that you can and try to appear attractive.

When I was younger, I received such advices before, and it proves to be more of a crap than helpful.

I am sharing this today for one of my friends, who is going after a lady’s heart. And for those who are in the same situation of pursuing someone’s heart, be it a guy or a girl, this is definitely for you.

“How to get a boyfriend/girlfriend?” is a silly question.

You cannot “get” a boyfriend or girlfriend by taking certain steps or procedures. Humans are not robots.

I have seen guys who tried using pickup lines, and asked a lady for her contacts. Immediately he was rejected. It doesn’t matter what kind of pickup lines, gifts or methods he used; it is doomed to failure.

Why? That is because girls and ladies just don’t give their contacts to creeps. If you do not know them in the first place, you got to have them trust and establish a good impression of you first, lest they risk themselves to an unknown stranger.

Similarly, some girls can be rather direct towards guys too, and in some cases they scare the guys.

Pickup lines, gifts and methods just do not work. Instead, understand what truly attracts you to a girl or a guy, and you will understand that unless you adopt some traits, mannerisms or attributes, you won’t be able to pursue someone’s heart easily.

Top most important tip: Be a person of ‘value’

We are all attracted to someone that has a great sense of value or worth. What does that mean?

Some people just have the looks to attract the opposite gender. And when guys or girls see them, they immediately feel that this person has a certain sense of ‘value’ in them, and will treat them better than other people.

Similarly, confident or people with charisma always emit an aura of ‘worth’ and ‘value’, that impresses us to feel differently amongst the rest. They literally influence us to act differently towards them to, where we will show greater respect or politeness than someone else.

You have to learn to be a person of value to other people, or at least appear as one, instead of focusing on ineffective methods and steps in attracting the opposite gender.

Find out within yourself what are the traits that make you a person of ‘value’. It doesn’t necessary have to be skin deep.

What are the common traits of people who has ‘value’?
1. People who have great looks.

2. People who have a flair in talking.

3. People who appear to be interesting, and have experiences in many things.

4. People who are humorous.

5. People who are confident.

6. People who are not men-pleasers; they have a stand of their own and have their unique set of thinking.

However they are not weird and out-of-this-world.

7. People who have a vision in life and are actively pursuing their vision. They are not all talk only.

8. A kind and a pleasant personality also attracts.

9. People who are financially independent, and have the substance to progress further.

10. People who are adventurous, outing and sporty; they are not introverted.

11. People who have a set of great abilities and skills; like playing the guitar or sing well.

12. People who are romantic.

13. People who are presentable in their appearance, and bother to do some personal grooming.

All these traits are not ranked according to numbers; they are completely random, and may differ with different people’s true likings.

However, these traits are not exactly far off. We must understand that what attracts us to others, should be similar with what others are to be attracted to us about.

Some tips to appear like a person of ‘value’…

1. You must never appear desperate for love before your crush.

You need to have the capacity to let go, to face the prospect of being rejected and not appreciated at all.

Those who do not have this mentality usually have a very rare chance of succeeding.

2. Never ask for your crush’s contacts if you have not established a good impression and trust in the first place.

That is because even if you have your crush’s contacts, your crush can easily ignore your messages and phone calls; or just ignore you completely if he or she dislikes you.

So what’s the point of getting your crush’s contacts if it is going to end this way? It would have been better if you leave room for more opportunities to impress, rather than letting your crush dislike you forever.

3. Only ask for personal contacts from your crush in a suitable situation or setting.

You do not want to scare the other party by approaching him or her drastically.

Look for ways to exchange contacts in a casual way. Supposed you need to go to a certain event together, and you have asked to arrange a meetup first before attending the event. There and then you should ask for your crush’s contacts, and it will not appear threatening to him or her.

There are many situations where you can ask for contacts casually. Just never ask directly because it may be a little threatening or it may expose your intentions too soon for your good.

4. Even if you have your crush’s contacts, don’t harass him or her by trying to contact with every slightest point of opportunity.

Otherwise, you will be labelled as a creep and a stalker, and prepare for the cold shoulder from your crush in the upcoming days.

Everything should always be casual, and in a non-threatening manner, to ensure that your build your impression in your crush subtlety.

5. You can learn to be confident and sure. If not, just appear confident, but don’t let anyone find out…

However, it takes time to develop confidence, and the strength to face the risk of failures.

Yet it is one of the best ways to appear like a person of ‘value’.

6. Never try too hard to impress your crush.

This comes in many shapes and forms.

Some people buy expensive gifts to their crush, not knowing that instead of making the other party feel happy, they feel pressure and obligation instead.

Others just talk too much to impress.

Don’t try too hard, it will backfire and you will get a bad impression instead of a good one instead.

7. However, just be around your crush and engage him or her subtlety in your conversations and activities.

There are alot of ways to engage your crush.

You can be a little teasing and not be overboard. Or you can always ask questions and find out more about the other party. Give your views if needed, but always be more willing to hear than to speak with your crush.

If you appear too shy towards your crush, it may be mistakenly interpreted as a lack of confidence towards people.

8. Expand your horizons in your experiences and thoughts.

A hermit living in his or her own world is very unlikely to find love.

Go out, make friends, join activities and have fun! Along the way, you will gain experience, and accumulate thoughts.

Therefore if you are able to relate to others your experiences and thoughts, you will appear interesting instead of boring.

9. Learn a new skill and adopt a hobby which you enjoy.

People who are skillful in their area of interest usually look attractive. How many times are we mesmerized by someone playing the guitar well? Or someone performing magic or card tricks to us?

However, my word of advice is to never take up a skill in order to impress the opposite gender and to get a partner. If your source of motivation is only that partner, you will burn out easily.

Rather, find something which you enjoy where you can pick up and learn.

10. Be ready to give your opinion and views, but do not be overbearing.

People can sense confidence in your opinions and views, so it is great to be an input in conversations.

However, don’t be stubborn in your opinions; give others space, and your crush will notice the depth of your personality and character.

Other advices to be continued…

I have other advices and tips that I do want to share, but this is a long post and I hope to keep it focused.

I also do wish to create a series out of this, and if any of you have anything you want me to share about, do let me know through the comments page below.

So what do you think? Does pickup lines, gifts and other methods work in getting a boyfriend or girlfriend?

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How To Create A Great Impression

 

One thing I have learnt when making acquaintances - it is vital to start off on the right foot. You need your friends, employer, colleagues, your loved ones even strangers to like you, respect you, trust you.

So how do first impressions happen, anyway? 

They are generated in the most primitive area of the brain, the same
area that processes feelings. When first meeting someone, we immediately assess outward appearance: height, race, age, clothing, etc. Then we notice demeanor, including facial expressions and body language. It is only afterward that the content of the conversation and the way it's said (choice of words, accent) come into play. 

GOLDEN PRINCIPLE

So how can you make a fantastic first impression? The “golden principle” is actually quite simple; people like people who are like them. When people are similar in dress styles, appearance, demeanor, and speech, they automatically assume they are equally similar in social level, education, and even values—and they tend to like each other pretty quickly.

Some things you have little control over, such as race, height, or age. Hairstyles, clothing, and accessories, however, are entirely your choice. How much can you adjust to the people you are meeting? You wouldn't wear a t- shirt and jeans to a bank interview, nor would you wear a three-piece suit at a barbecue of your partner's parents. 

Body language and facial expressions are among the most important aspects of first impressions. Your body is a 24-hour broadcasting station, revealing precisely how you feel at any given moment. Right now—from the crinkle of your forehead to the angle of your feet you're sending out information to anyone around you. Unfortunately, you can't control this vital part of the process consciously. Like your heart and breathing, it is usually controlled by your subconscious mind. One interesting thing about the subconscious mind is that it does not distinguish between imagination and reality.

SO HOW DO YOU CREATE A GREAT IMPRESSION

Look Your Best Always

You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor, and he doesn't give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door, look your best, and you never know you might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor.

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Flirting with your Online Date

 

If you are dating online then you know that flirting in the cyber world is just as important as flirting in the real world.  Just because you’re carrying on your conversation via email instead of face-to-face does not mean you can’t be flirty and show your personality.  Many people seem to think there is an art to flirting and I have to agree with them.  Flirting is an art; you can learn the art of flirting and become very successful at it with your online dates.

 

We’re not talking rocket science here folks!  Learning to flirt is not difficult.  It simply takes a bit of confidence and attention to detail.  If you are with your date in person, eye contact is essential; however, you obviously cannot do this when you are online.  Email flirting takes some practice.  You know how you feel when someone you like remembers things you’ve told him.  They remember your favorite restaurant or your favorite type of music—well that’s what I mean when I say pay attention to details.  Remember what your online date tells you about himself, and then remark about it.  This is flirting.  This is showing him that you’ve taken the time to listen (or in this case read) carefully about the things he’s told you about himself.  When you repeat back to him what he has said to you, he feels good.  Paying attention and taking a strong interest in your date is essential if you’re going to be a good flirt!

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Don’t be complimentary for the sake of being complimentary because it will have a false ring to it and your date will know you’re not being sincere. Empty, fluffy remarks will sound empty and shallow and you can be sure he will move on to the next woman who seems to have more going on in her head.  Being able to hold your own in a conversation is important as well as being sexy.  Email conversations are just as important as in-person talks, so be mindful that you’re taking your time to construct a well-thought out and interesting email.  That’s the beauty of email; you can take your time and get it just right.

Be true to who you are.  This means that if you’re not the type to wink or flutter your eyelashes in person, don’t do it in an email.  Don’t use a million emoticons in an attempt to be someone you’re not.  Flirting isn’t all about being the silly, helpless female.  Successful flirting is a way to showcase your amazing and unique personality along with communicating eloquently with your new guy.  Believe it or not, if you are able to express yourself in an open and honest way, this can be a real turn-on.

Most importantly, don’t try so hard.  Don’t try to be someone you’re not.  Just be yourself.  Include him as much as you can in the conversation so you’re not rambling on and on about you.  When you show him you are a confident woman with your own specific likes and dislikes and you include him in the conversation, you will be on your way to becoming a natural flirt.  Easier than you thought, isn’t it?

 

Your Appearance Is Sending Unconscious Signals

 

It’s a well-known fact that we’re constantly sending signals to people.  Body language, gestures and phrases all come into play.  What we may not realize, though, is how our appearance plays a part in sending signals, too.  From clothing to hair and make-up, we’re telling the world where we’re at emotionally.  Knowing what you’re showing can help you understand why you’re getting the reactions you are, and how to modify yourself to being irresistible.

Starting with hair: the length of your hair can reflect your personality.  The shorter and more stylish it is, the more it tells others you’re high-maintenance, high-strung and meticulous.  It can also be a signal of insecurity because of the constant upkeep.  The most girlfriend-friendly hairstyles are mid-length, from chin to shoulders.  You take care of yourself, but don’t overdo it.  Long hair can be two different things:  either you’re attempting to recapture or play on youthfulness (which can be a sign of desperation if you’re an older woman) or that you simply don’t care.

Hair color is another readable factor.  Many women color their hair, and the choices in coloring speak volumes.  Black hair is the intentional rebel.  Brown hair is (again) the most friendly, because it’s the most common.  With warm highlights, it shows openness.  Red hair is the rarest, and will soon die out altogether.  A woman who colors her hair red is ready for a relationship and looking for attention.  Bottle blonds can come off as icy or unapproachable, and because the bleach does so much damage the ends get brittle.  Not keeping it trimmed makes a stereotypical cheapness.

The clothing we wear is also a reflection, not just in the style but in the color choices.  Here are the most common:

• Red. Again, signaling that you’re ready for a relationship or looking for some excitement. It’s the most eye-catching color, and that’s what it’s worn for.
• Black. Either a protection mechanism or a contrast to highlight the other features (i.e. figure and face).
• Brown. While it may be natural, it’s also a natural repellent since it brings to mind dinge and dirt.
• Yellow. Happiness, sunniness and joy in general, it can also scare people away from you if it’s too bright.  Imagine someone cheerful waking you up at 5am on a Sunday.
• White. Spotlessness tells of a clean freak, someone who would insist on coasters at the dinner table.  It can also be a sign of purity or untouchable-ness.
• Purple. A free spirit wears purple, and doesn’t care who likes it or not.  Especially vivid purples.  Independent and feisty.

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Are Emotional Leeches Bleeding You Dry?

There are so many terms for ‘bad people’ that influence you in such negative ways.  Emotional leeches, psychic vampires, the hystericals and drama queens (a.k.a. social vamps).  We all have them in our circumference.  Many of us have to deal with them on a daily basis.  What a lot of us don’t take into account, however, is how they can affect our moods, personalities and even our health if we give them too much sway.  Our guilt plays a gruesome game between our conscience and our own needs- usually with guilt getting a leg up, over and under our skin.

It’s actually got a psychological term that’s been scientifically proven:  emotional contagion.  Think back through the years to all of those you’ve known that were needy, clingy, continuously vicious and enraged, the people that once you left them you felt absolutely drained.  You were in a good mood, and it can take less than minutes for a ‘negative’ personality to wipe that joy slate clean.  They might have even left you feeling downright surly.  Neuroscience says that deeply unhappy people infect others, because we are subconscious mirrors to those around us.  Spending a lot of time with certain people, we pick up their gestures, their phrases and eventually their behavior.  We’re unconscious mimics- or unconscious hosts.  Identify the types:

• Emotional Leeches: these are the people that are always in need, always come to you for advice, phone you up, and never solve their problems.  They feed off of your sympathy and kindness, coming back for more.  In extreme cases, they may even go the serial liar path just to have a constant influx of badness.  They can be friends, co-workers or family.  The only thing that matters:  they’re sucking the glee out of you, walking away feeling ’so much better.’

• Psychic Vampires: a sub-let to leeches, they’re more specified and professional.  They have, dunno, special needs?  These are people who need to start arguments, or flirt outrageously, or those that kill everyone with kindness and then lap up the guilt.  They only feel satisfied if they get the ‘required’ response.  They walk away from the encounter with relief, while you’re left reacting.

• Drama Queens: they can’t exist without an audience.  They can be awkward, embarrassing, bullying, over-running the conversation to be ‘me, me, me’ focused and are pretty obnoxious. Part of the reason they become part of our lives is that initially they can be fun. Entertaining, even, if we feel a little bored.  Unfortunately, they never let up.  They’re insensitive to anyone’s needs, and tend to throw tantrums if they’re even mildly not paid attention to.

• The Hystericals: an off-shoot of drama queens.  Hystericals notch it up 2 decibels.  Ranting, raving, screaming, crying at the drop of a hat, inappropriate laughter that rings hours after a meeting.  It’s always the end of the world for these people.

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There is good news, though- if you attract them, it means you’re generally happy and stable.  Getting rid of them is tough on guilt-trips but you have to stay strong.  Limit contact, if you can’t sever it completely.  They’ll keep trying to come back.  Don’t waver.  Just remember:  happiness is the left side of the brain and it’s logical.  Anger, resentment or depression are all right-siders, and they’re irrational.  Cleansing yourself of external negativity means you’re in the right frame of mind, even if your head’s a southpaw.

The Trap Of Online Dating

 

Many times people talk about studying picking extensively and having it bring them to a dark place or they get burnt out from doing it.   I think its extremely important to look at why this happens so it doesn’t happen to you.

Some people as they become more and more successful start to realize that no matter how many women you have sex with, it isn’t making you happy its not the answer.  You started out with this grand goal of being able to go out to a bar or club and date beautiful Baguio women.

After practicing extensively you achieve that goal, you start to have more and more success, but then realize that having more women in your life is not the answer.  The same old depression and sadness hits and you don’t know why.  This is the trap many guys who get good with this stuff fall into.

The reason for this is that studying pick-up and quite frankly doing anything from a perspective of lack of will lead to this path.  If you are doing it because you never got it or if you are trying to fill a hole in your life with women then no matter how many women you bed, still that hole will remain.

The need and lack of is a terrible way reason to do something.  The negative motivation that you put on yourself can only carry you so far until the negative snap back effect appears.  Then you lose your drive and will to go forward and find yourself stuck back at the beginning again.  Still wanting even with your new found ability.

On the flip side when you do something because you love to do it.  You desire the experience and enjoy the process then what ever your doing will feel good to do.  You can continue to move forward positively and feel good about the process, which is extremely important.

I think its really important to not only approach pick-up as a process but learn to enjoy the process.

If you are out looking (hunting) for that one hot girl then your entire mentality will sabotage your game.  How ever if you are out being social and enjoying the experience of being social, then when that beautiful women who you would love to meet appears, you can easily go right up to her and meet her.

All in all I think it is extremely important to learn pick-up because you enjoy women, if your coming from a place of lack where part of you resents women or anything like that then you should probably seek professional help but on the flip side of that if you want wild success and to learn pick-up you should seek my help.  Yes shameless self plug.

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Why You Are Not Approaching Women (The Real Cause)

I sincerely believe the #1 cause of under-achievement and lack of success with women is not approaching or interacting with women enough.

Here are 3 excuses that we all have at least once in our lives which is used for not approaching:

“I don’t know what to say”

“I’m afraid”

“It was the wrong context” (or logistic excuse: she was seated, she was on the phone, a friend came just before I approached, I don’t have the time etc…)

But, I can say for sure that it has NOTHING to do with any of these.

You see, the reason as to why you’re not approaching is simply that you don’t have any INTEGRITY. Yes, no integrity, zero, nada.

I can hear you saying: “But DRH, I’m an honest and moral person and by the way what does it have to do anyway with pick-ups?”

Everything, my friend.

Let me explain.

I’m not talking about integrity as being honest, I’m talking about keeping your word. Simply said: doing what you say you will do when you say you’ll do it. Most people are conditioned to only keep their words when they’re paid to do so or if there’s a risk for not doing it.

Corporations have more powers than countries because they’re big machines that make people keep their words and do what they’re supposed to do, when they’re supposed to.

But, outside of work or school, what makes you keep your word?

You read a post on Sunday night about a guy who met his new girlfriend after approaching her in the subway.

You get excited, you know that it’s possible, this is what you want, you know you deserve it like anybody else and you say to yourself: “Tomorrow I’m approaching the next hot girl I meet in the tube!”

It’s Monday morning, you’re on the platform waiting for your train to go to work and there is this stunning blonde. You find her attractive. You’re a great person with a good heart and you know that you just want her even though she’s a stranger.

But then, you realize that she looks “upset”, like “she doesn’t want to be approached” and you have to be at work at 10 a.m. and you don’t want “to take the risk to be late” thinking after all “she will be there tomorrow”.

So, you don’t approach her and you’re at your desk at 9:30 a.m. sharp.

You have kept your word to your boss but you haven’t kept your word to yourself. And my friend, that is the only reason you’re not at the level of freedom, enjoyment and power with women that you know you deserve to be in.

When you start keeping your word with yourself and constantly do what you say you will do when you say you’ll do it, magical things will start to happen.

Every frustration that I have had or still have in my life is down to one thing and one thing only: not keeping my word by not doing what I know in my heart I should do. Oppositely, every success and enjoyment is the result of having absolute integrity and keeping your word.

Approaching is not about overcoming fear, having the right opener or doing things right. It’s being true to yourself and to what you want. If you want her, then keep your word and at least give yourself the opportunity to get her. She certainly can reject you, but all that matters is that you keep your word by approaching.

INTEGRITY is the bottom line.