Moslitski: Dating Isn't Everything

The dating blogger community is very interesting and unique. There’s as much drama, backstabbing and gossiping as in any other niche community. Someone we can’t see outside of the bubble to realize that, this is really just that, a niche. It’s a part of our lives, but at times we all believe it to be our life. That’s when we make a very large mistake.

Dating isn’t the same thing as a relationship, which isn’t the same thing as marriage. These are all niches under a larger umbrella, lifestyle. While there are magazines dedicated to dating, there’s also magazines dedicated to sports, fishing, and interior decorticating. They are all facests of our life, but not our lives. They all make up a part of our lifestyle. At one time or another, they may take the dominant position.

Why do I bring this up? For those who think this post is about you, it’s not. The larger point I’m hinting at is, dating isn’t the only thing a person can do in their life. It’s not a hobby, or a job. Even those who are professionals in the dating circle have a life outside of their job, which is directly related to dating. Life doesn’t end if you can’t find a date on Sunday, or if they don’t call you back. We all make this mistake, dating blogger or not.

Dating should add to your life, not become your sole purpose. Sometimes I felt addicted to Loveawake, when I probably should have done something else. I could have gone out, worked out more, slept earlier. While the reward from dating can be exciting and high value, so can the rewards of playing the lottery. That doesn’t mean it will be the only thing you do.

I’m recommending to Enjoy your life, get away from the dating website. Go out with friends, walk around the city, do something you like! The profiles and messages will still be there when you come back!