четверг, 19 декабря 2019 г.

It’s Time to Be Happy Single From Pennsylvania


Being single’s a tricky thing. For some, it can be a happy experience, while for others, not so much. So here’s a few reminders why if you’re single, you ought not be so unhappy. You’ve got nothing to worry about! It’s time to be happy single.

Own Your Feelings

The ability to feel all those wonderful emotions such as joy, accomplishment, confidence etc., is yours. Not somebody else’s to give to you.


And thank God right? Because imagine if the only way a person could feel anything good, was through the mercy of someone else. Imagine if happiness wasn’t a decision, but a thing one had to wait to have bestowed upon them at some point in their life. Wouldn’t that suck?
Look, I know these are all silly scenarios, but there are some single women in the world right now feeling down in the dumps because to them, they’re not quite sure how it is they’ll ever be happy without that special guy or gal in their life. But this is what I mean by waiting for happiness to be bestowed unto you. Don’t get me wrong, there is happiness to be felt in a relationship. But, if you don’t know how to be happy on your own, then not even the happiness of a relationship can ever be enough for you.
The real bestower of happiness in your life is you. I’ll admit, it’s scary at first when you think about the responsibilities of having to take on your own happiness. But trust me, it’s worth it. No one can bring it about the way that you can. So close your eyes and go for it.

Take Your Time

There is victory in not being with the wrong sort of guy.

Sometimes, some single women get mad at the fact that mostly every guy they come across seems to be this, that or the other. Not realizing that there is that flip side where they could be the girl who’s with the guy that’s this, that or the other. More so, they don’t know that some of us don’t know the things that they do right off-the-bat. And that some of us have to find all these things out, the hard way. (You know, when we’ve been through them at least eighty million times.) So take pride in the fact that right off-the-bat, you were the sort of woman with the intuition to detect that something was off about a certain so-and-so you were looking into, had the smarts to know that you deserved better, and were full of the strength it took to walk away. Don’t be mad that you can’t seem to find a guy who’s anything but proud that you aren’t the lady of a guy (or gal), who’s not right for you.
“You’ve still got all your love to give.”
And that is to quote Gloria Gaynor in the song “I Will Survive.” Love isn’t limited to people. Or more specifically, that special someone. Have you ever considered loving life? Loving what you do? Loving you? So there isn’t a special someone in your life with whom you’re giving this “love” to? That’s okay. Because there is so much more to living. Heck, life’s a journey. Don’t pass up the opportunity to learn and grow because you limited the definition of the word love. Don’t get me wrong—having someone to go on the journey with is awesome. But, if you’re at that point in your journey where you must travel alone, then that’s just where you are. Just because the path calls for you to travel alone doesn’t mean that it’ll teach you one less thing, or grow you in one less way. As long as you have your dreams, hopes, aspirations and things that you’re passionate about doing, then you can trust that you’re headed somewhere great. A traveling companion, or lack thereof, won’t change that.

Nothing lasts forever.      
So in the meantime, why not work on you? If you don’t believe me, go ahead and test fate. Be single forever. You, with all that you have going for you? I dare you to try.
But, before you embark on this dare, I don’t mean be a ‘B’ to everyone you meet or pack your bags and move to the top of Mount Everest. I’m saying, while being you, and striving each day to be the truest and best version of yourself, try being single for the rest of your life. Tell yourself that lie of how you, with all your qualities, are destined to be forever alone. Maybe you may not like yourself enough to believe that you’re awesome enough to bring this “age of single-ness” to a close. (If so, you need to change how you think right now!) But if a diamond can turn back into coal (granted, this is after a long, long while) then you’re not going to be single forever. But, if you don’t believe me—hey—my dare still stands.
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среда, 18 декабря 2019 г.

What You Can Learn From Her Tattoo


Body art. Ink. Tats. Whatever you call ’em, tattoo shave been around since at least Neolithic times. And with a 2008 Harris Interactive Poll finding that 32 percent of Americans aged 25 to 29 have at least one, there’s a pretty good chance your average bar hottie is permanently decorated. But what compels a woman to get adornments once reserved for Hell’s Angels and sailors, what do they mean, and how do they affect for your chances?

“Tattoos are a search for identity, and they are usually meaningful, significant, and important…apart from the times girls get them when they’re drunk and out of their minds,” notes John Ryder, Ph.D., a psychologist in private practice in New York City. “In essence women with tattoos are a bit on the wilder side, and are willing to take risks that are avant-garde. Even though trendy, it’s still risqué.”

In other words, a tramp stamp means you’re totally getting laid tonight? Not necessarily. Here are 11 real girls’ tattoos, their thoughts on them, plus analysis from another psychologist, San Francisco’s Jeffrey Kaye, Ph.D. and, of course, yours truly. No doubt this info will improve your odds of seeing the tats she’s rocking where the sun don’t shine. Good luck! (P.s.—We’ll cover the fantastic Mrs. Fox’s tattoo at the very bottom.)

She says: “I got it because I’m Catholic. My brother back home is into tattoos and for graduation he got me a tattoo for a forever memory. I got it on my wrist because I like the way it looks.” Veronica, 22, Texas
Doc says: This tattoo is a kind of identification badge, in this case with one’s brother. This could bode well or ill for a future relationship. She’ll either bond closely to a new boyfriend, or have difficulties because she can’t really emotionally leave her brother and/or her family.
We say: Religious chick meets bad girl. She may have past issues and needs a constant reminder of her faith, since the cross is in a spot she can view daily. Don’t be put off by the symbolism, though. This angel’s packing at least a pinch of devil.

She says: “I got it when I turned 18. I wanted it on my forearm because I could see it everyday, so it would remind me to stay positive and content and always remember I’m blessed” Angela, 22, Florida
Doc says: This tattoo has a very private and emotional meaning. She seeks internal meanings and guarantees against outer emotional pains or difficulties. She will be hard to read, and will let you into her world only slowly.
We say: She may be going for innocence, but butterflies are still a heckuva lot more sexy than, say, caterpillars. Get her talking by asking whether she’s made a similar transition.

She says: “I spent seven years living in Pittsburgh with my best friend from college/grad school, so when I left, I wanted to get something that showed my pride. Andy Warhol is from Pittsburgh, and they have a big free museum we’d spend a lot of time in, so I got the banana he did for the Velvet Underground album cover (also one of my favorite bands in college) with the A next to it for Andy (and my best friend, Amber).”Sarah, 29, New York
Doc says: This woman identifies a good deal with the intellectual and artsy life. The meanings are somewhat personal and hard to identify if you don’t know her. Perhaps she likes being mysterious and opaque, like modern art itself.
We say: Very cool, and definitely worth asking about. Warning: Though not true for Sarah, if a girl has initials or a letter as part of her tattoo, it could be in reference to an ex. Watch out for him to come up at some point.

She says: “I wanted a tattoo about my sexuality, and my pride in it, but I wanted a different way of showing it. I picked 3 flowers, which I found online and edited so they weren’t too spread out to get tattoos on my hip. Each of the flowers is a color of the Bisexual Pride flag: pink, purple, and blue (same order as the flag). I added the Chinese symbols for pride, and a symbol for bisexuality, to add to its uniqueness.” Tracy, 22, New York
Doc says: This tattoo symbolizes a signal point in Tracy’s struggle to be who she is sexually, and a statement of her uniqueness. The flowers don’t touch, and yet they must not be “too spread out.” She has accepted her bisexuality, but her ability to be emotionally close to others is something she is still working on.
We say: Calling your bluff if you didn’t think of a threesome when you saw the three flowers. And it might not be out of the question…

She says: “It was a point in my life where I decided that I didn’t want to be the person that I once was. My Genesis rib tattoo symbolizes a new beginning.” Courtney, 20, Illinois
Doc says: One can’t help but be struck by the religious connotations, and the literalness of the tattoo. No doubt it does signify what Courtney says. When she says “new beginning,” she means transformation. She is still in the process.
We say: Watch out for this girl (in a good way). She’s become a new person and isn’t turning back. Bring some positive energy to the table and you might get to use some of it on the table.

She says: “I have a heart with a rose and stem through it above my right breast. At the time, it was a remembrance of the broken heart. To me it means “every rose has its thorns.” Renee, 26, Georgia
Doc says: The tattoo often is a symbol which acts to express the totality of an experience or a relationship. Here, Renee displays for the world her shame over her lost love, but also her victory over that shame.
We say: Any girl with a tattoo of something piercing a heart has been seriously hurt. So help her mend her heart, dude. When you learn what that other guy did, don’t do it!

She says: “I got this on my arm because it’s an African symbol that means God’s protection and wisdom. To me, it’s my amulet or talisman and it reminds me that no matter what happens, I will be ok.” Erin, 39, California
Doc says: Erin needed an amulet or talisman. It’s interesting how many tattoos are used by women as some kind of magical protection, not least because women are much more vulnerable to attack and hurt in the world.
We say: If you send this girl a similar signal of protectiveness—listening, a warm hug, defending her from a sloppy drunk—only good things can happen.

She says: “My husband got his tattoo on his wrist when he was stationed in Japan, so I copied him. It is my connection to him.” Lydia, 21, Texas
Doc says: Lydia’s description seems sincere to me. Sealing in the flesh one’s bond to another is one of the powerful magnetic draws of getting a tattoo.
We say: Stars are a simple, yet meaningful symbol. Don’t try to steal this girl’s spotlight. Let her shine, and she will shine for you.

She says: “I got angels on my shoulder when my three best friends moved away. Each angel is a different color, and they symbolize us watching each others back.” Rose, 25, Pennsylvania
Doc says: The idea that they must watch each other’s backs has significance in that the three friends must have experienced the world as a dangerous place. Look for this woman to test your trustworthiness.
We say: This girl is connected to her girlfriends in a very powerful way. The horns indicate they’re no angels. Do not cross her, or you might be looking at a drive-by. 
She says: “This tattoo is in French and translates to ‘fear imprisons, faith liberates.’ I just got out of a nine-year relationship and its my motto. It took me a long time to finally leave because I was scared. This reminds me that it’s all going to be ok with faith in God.” Katherine, 31, New York
Doc says: The experience was harrowing. This tattoo is a talisman, and putting it in French is a way of psychologically distancing or intellectualizing the experience. Katherine did persevere, but she didn’t get out without some scars.
We say: This girl made a mistake, but is now free. Free and ready to mingle with a guy who won’t scare her, maybe you. Also, it probably wouldn’t hurt to drop a little French on her. 
She says: “I wanted something big, and my lower back was the perfect place. I don’t really feel like I get judged for having it. People say it’s a tramp stamp, but most of the people I know have one.” Amber, 23, Florida
Doc says: For Amber, it was important to find a way to make her sexuality clean, so vaguely vaginal imagery is combined with innocence (dolphins) and the beauty of a sun.
We say: It’s trashy-hot, yes, but it’s not necessarily a bull’s eye. She has probably endured so many comments about it that you’re best bet may be to not say a word, and simply see where the night takes you.
…As for the “We will all laugh at gilded butterflies” adorning Megan Fox’s right shoulder blade? A loose quote from King Lear. Which means this chick reads Shakespeare, dude. Or at least wants you to think she does. Our advice? If you see such an obscure literary tattoo, don’t ask, but rather, surreptitiously Google on your phone. If you can correctly ID an odd tat’s origin, and talk intelligently about it, you’ll score major points.

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понедельник, 16 декабря 2019 г.

How To Move On After Cheating- When You Are The Cheater


One thing this life has taught me with it’s twists and turns is that you NEVER say NEVER and you don’t speak about things which you know NOTHING about. There have been several occasions in which life has taught me this. I’ve received several slaps in the face, constant reminders that I, Angela Jordan, am not perfect after all (sorry to disappoint).
These times include, but are not limited to, the declaration that pregnancy doesn’t “just happen” and my implication that those who say that are, well, stupid? 3 months later I was pregnant. And I swear, it just happened. Oh and the declaration that I would NEVER have an abortion? Well, I didn’t have one, but I thought long and hard about it. Long and hard all the way to the clinic where I then chickened out, but still, little miss judgmental was once again enlightened. The most recent time this happened to me I was one of those girls who thought that people who cheat were the scum of the earth. And guess what-I cheated.
And now being labeled a “cheater” myself I have no choice but to see the other side, once again. When this happened it challenged everything I believed about relationships, cheating, and mostly myself. I’m sharing this with you guys to help those who have cheated themselves and are left trying to pick up the pieces of a broken relationship, and those of you who have been cheated on and are left wondering why and questioning your judgement.




How To Deal With Being A “Cheater”

Good People Make Bad Choices

Cheating is a bad choice let’s face it. In a sense we become our choices, but we don’t always have to choose to be. We can choose differently next time. We can choose to not let that decision shape us and become a part of who we are. We can instead learn from it and move forward. Cheating doesn’t make you a bad person, it’s how you move on from it that determines your character. Good people make mistakes. We are all human.

Learn How To Express Yourself

Often times cheating is a result of unmet expectations. Learning how to more effectively express your expectations puts you more in control of your relationship. It’s you doing your part to give the other person a chance to abide by those expectations. I talk more about this in 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Daters, which is also a good read and can help prevent cheating on your part.

Change Is VITAL

Now here’s the hard part- change. You’ll need to identify the “why” behind what you did. You were lonely, tired, aggravated, you let someone in that you shouldn’t have-whatever the reason, you must identify it. And it must be something that pertains to YOU not something your partner did to make you to what you did. Remember, when we blame others for our actions we actually give up our power to be in control of our lives and shape our own destinies. We are saying that we allowed someone else that power- and this we should never do. Once you identify what it was-the feeling, the man we let in, the loneliness, we have to come up with alternative ways to deal with it. If you were feeling lonely and you cheated, then you are going to have come up with different ways to deal with that emotion other than filling that space with the affection of the opposite sex. Get it?
Bottom line, cheaters are not always cheaters, people can change, sometimes it requires great change, sometimes it just requires a little tweaking to our mindsets. Never judge ANYONE! You never know what the universe will place in your path that will challenge that judgement. Keep loving-yourself first, others second  .


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четверг, 12 декабря 2019 г.

Online Dating Success Stories

“Really?!  Oh wow! Was it Loveawake or Match?That’s the usual response that we receive when we mention that we met online. Meeting online has become quite common, I could think of three (make that four) couples that we know personally that have met online. No We didn’t meet on either of those sites. We Met on a niche site and neither of us were premium members. Our is not one of those typical online dating success stories. Ours is different than most.
I don’t quite remember how we “connected”. What I remember for sure was that I was not looking for romance. He wasn’t either. Simply said, he just seemed like a genuinely nice guy. That’s what I saw in his profile pica. Yes. He was tall, dark, and handsome.  For whatever reason, I didn’t see that. Yet.  He didn’t see me as his future wife either. We were buddies, literally. We exchanged countless instant messages.  It felt so good chatting with him. It was comfortable. It was easy, in a good way.  We chatted about church, life, work, school, and relationships. He heard all about my adventures in the childcare industry.  I heard all about his hour and a half commutes to work in his 1994 Chrysler New Yorker after he graduated college.
After failed attempts at online dating, I swore I would never do it again. That’s what I told my mom. “As a matter of fact, I won’t even talk to guys online if I don’t know them in person. Well….there is one guy, but he’s different. We don’t even talk on the phone. We are just friends. I feel comfortable still talking to him.”
There’s that word again “different”.  We eventually started talking on the phone, but it was unremarkable. His voice was attractive and strikingly deep. Conversation was okay, but it was nothing more or nothing less. Then, something happened. I needed a date to a wedding. It dawned on me. I should ask him. I figured this was probably the safest way to meet someone that I have never met. More importantly, I knew that I could be comfortable with him as my date. It’s weird how I knew, but I did. Truthfully, I did not really think that he would drive two and a half hours to where I lived to be my date, but I was pleasantly surprised when he said yes.
Our first meeting was just what I expected it to be. It was fun and it was comfortable. This was different for me, but I still wasn’t seeing the possibilities. He didn’t either.
Apparently, we were the only ones. While walking by our friend’s four year old daughter, she asked, “Kristy, is that your husband?” I was stunned, but managed to apologize profusely to him. My Pastor’s wife stopped me while in line for cake and said,”Oooh Kristy, he is cute!” My Pastor stopped me the next day to point out how nice he was and how impressed he was with his sense of humor, easygoing nature, good job, and nice car. He was impressed with how he dressed too. However, in my mind he was just my friend. I was starting to see that he was handsome. Yes, he had a great career. Yes, he drove a convertible Mustang. I was happy for him, but that was the extent of it.
Then, he accompanied me to another wedding. The wedding was beautiful, but once again nothing went as planned. Knowing that he was a lover of jazz, I took him to “the best jazz spot” in the area. There was a country singer performing that night. We were hungry. They served no food. It was such a crazy day! I noticed something though that changed my opinion of him forever. I noticed he kept me calm. He kept me happy. He kept me laughing. We had the absolute best time together. The light bulb went off. “I could use some of that in my life.” I thought to myself.
A couple months later The Mr. invited me to come watch his jazz band play at a local festival. At this point I was one outing short of becoming head over heels over this man. I will never forget praying to God on the way to this festival. “Lord, I can’t deal with this anymore. If this is your will, please let something happen quickly. If not, please let these feelings go away. I do not want our friendship to be ruined over my feelings. In Jesus’ name.”
This day was not much different than any other time we were together. Though it was cold and rainy, we had an amazing time. His band was incredible and I could not keep my eyes off that handsome and talented saxophone player.  Afterwards we walked around the park and grabbed a bit to eat. It was a perfect date, but it wasn’t a date. However, there was this woman dining in the same restaurant who saw things differently. She had obviously had a bit much to drink, but she was fixated on us.  On her way out of the restaurant, she stopped at our table and said, “You two must be on a date. Is it your first date? Third date?” My heart jumped. I waited to see what he would say, but he wasn’t saying anything. However, I could tell by his expression that he wasn’t turned off by the idea either. This was good enough for me. “It’s our first date”, I said. She walked away. We laughed it off and continued our day.  Two days later, The Mr. asked me to be his girlfriend. About a year and a half after that, he became my fiancé. Nine months after that, I became his Mrs. that was about a year and half ago.  God continues to lead us. The Mr. Once said that he would never be in a long distance relationship, and truthfully I never thought that we would end up together. However, here we are loving every minute of our perfectly different happily ever after.  I once asked The Mr. what changed his mind about dating someone long distance. He responded with, “…I didn’t want to lose the chance of being with you.”
I’m so grateful that he chose me.

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вторник, 10 декабря 2019 г.

Don’t Let Your Tongue Ruin it For You : Backpage Dating

Remember women like your sassy older aunts, the seemingly frail church ladies, or the nosey “neighbor lady” who was always ready to tattle on you? You know, the ones who would blurt out the darndest things, anytime… anywhere – and get away with it? It often seems that being an “old lady” has it privileges, at least when it comes to speaking your mind without apology and with little to no regard for anyone else’s feelings.

As women, many of us live the majority of our lives not getting what we want, simply because we don’t ask for it. We’re so afraid of offending someone, not being liked, or being perceived as overly aggressive, that our true feelings get suppressed and many of our needs go unmet. Somewhere around 40ish we find that buried voice and start making up for lost time. The question is, is that new outspokenness serving our communication or sabotaging it?



I’ve met some wonderful women who, after discovering the voice of their true selves, have become “deliciously” outspoken in midlife. I’ve also encountered women who are completely fed up from having stifled their wants, needs and desires for far too long. Alas, after a lifetime of being invisible, she has found her voice and she’s not afraid to use it. But it’s not quite that simple. While finding our voice can be one of the best things we ever do, the inability to use that voice effectively can damage relationships with our families, close friends and significant others. It can even be damaging to our health.

Speaking up doesn’t mean being tactless, obnoxious or aggressive. Get your needs met? Absolutely! But never at someone else’s expense. Communication must be fair to be effective and every time we open our mouth, we must take personal responsibility for the things we say.

Here’s a few tips to help you get the most out of your new found voice:

They’re not psychic.. they’re family! People, no matter how much they love us, can not read our minds. It’s our responsibility to let others know what we want and how we feel.

Passive is not pretty. If something isn’t the way you want it to be or if you’re being treated in a way that’s not acceptable for you, make the choice to deal with it. If you choose not to deal with it you forfeit your right to sit around brooding about it. And please, don’t be a “yes” woman, you’ll grow to resent it.

Be open and honest. There’s nothing wrong with wanting someone to do something for us. But using hurt or anger to get your way is a foul play. Hurt and anger are both aggressive communication tactics. When you guilt someone into getting your way, you are using hurt. When you intimidate someone into getting your way, you are using anger. You may gain some short term benefits, but in the long run it’s you who’ll be the biggest loser “Payback is a b$#ch!” as the saying goes, but payback is something best left out of your dealings with people. Revenge will age you quickly and take more of a toll on you than the one you’re aiming for. Trying to pay someone back or teach someone a lesson by gossiping, sabotaging, withdrawing attention or affection such as touching, talking, or even sex is no way to get our needs met. Payback sneaks in with the promise of making you feel good but in the end, will leave you wrinkled, lifeless, broke (in spirit) and alone.

Within your voice lies the ultimate creation tool – the power of life and death. If you don’t use your voice you’re not really living. But use it with compassion and you’ll live a life well lived. Live out loud ladies! Live out loud!
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вторник, 3 декабря 2019 г.

My Boyfriend Has Girlfriends: 5 Ways to Deal With It



There you are in the beautiful beginnings of a new relationship; you’re getting to know each other and finding ways to bring two lives together. He’s a great guy with tons of personality and you love his outgoing nature but there is one thing you weren’t quite counting on, his horde of female friends.
I speak from experience in this area, having been with my boyfriend for 10 years now; I had to do some serious soul searching when we first started dating. He was the social butterfly and having three younger sisters he’d acquired a lot of very close female friends. They were always around and they’d grown up together so I immediately felt like I was an intruder in some secret world. I didn’t know the inside jokes, I couldn’t keep all of their names straight and let’s be honest there was a pang of jealousy when I’d see them all hanging out together. Trust me it wasn’t a smooth road to that place of understanding I had to admit to myself my boyfriend has girlfriends and I had to find ways to deal with it.
So if you find yourself in a similar situation and aren’t quite sure what to do, I’m here to bestow my wisdom on you with 5 ways to deal with it.

They’re Not the Enemy 5 ways To Deal

Assumption makes an ass out of you and me

Don’t make assumptions about the relationships your boyfriend has with his friends, even if it is easy to think that they all want him. You see him in the light of love, they don’t. Take a minute to think about your own relationships with the opposite sex, do you want everyone of your male friends? Before you start calling them a bunch of whores consider all the other amazing things about your boyfriend and why they might enjoy spending time with him.

Give them a chance

I know the instinct to hate might be strong but don’t block the girls out so quickly. Women are taught to compete with each other and you automatically view them as a threat. Instead of acting coldly when they come around sit and have a conversation. You never know you might even develop some genuine friendships. Find some common ground and learn a little about them, once you get to know them they’ll feel like less of threat.

Talk it out but don’t freak out

The absolute best thing to do is talk to him about it; keep in mind he may not get it. Men don’t understand the female dynamic, he may not understand you saying you feel threatened, for him its just little Jane that he’s known since he was three. Take your time and don’t freak out, explain how it makes you feel, if there’s specific things that bother you spell them out for him. If he’s still not getting it, put the shoe on the other foot and ask him how he feels about your male friends.

Take a Look in the Mirror

Sometimes you have to take a deeper look at yourself. If his female friends are causing that much a problem for you, take a step back and figure out what it is that bothers you. Unless they’re hanging off your boyfriend and being completely inappropriate it might be you. Jealous and insecurity go hand in hand and they’re both perfectly natural, unfortunately unless you address the core issues it won’t matter if it’s your boyfriend’s friends or your best friend’s friends, you’ll find the same issues.

Allow Time for Change

As women we like to see things happen immediately, well some things take time. If you’ve talked with your boyfriend, made an effort with his girl friends and taken a look in the mirror, give time for change. You can’t ask him to drop his female friends but you can ask that certain things change. Don’t go off on him if it doesn’t happen the next day, the more understanding you are the easier the transition will be.
There you have it, 5 ways to deal with your boyfriend’s girlfriends. You can do all of these things until your blue in the face but the number one thing you have to do it communicate. This is your relationship and no one can come between the two of you unless you allow it. Be open about your feelings and be calm in your delivery, you boyfriend will be more receptive to that and you won’t look crazy.
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